CHOICES
By Adesuwa
"I had to slap her joor! She was talking too much and I was boiling with anger...I didn't have a choice!"
"Doing runs was the only way I saw I could survive. I didn't have a choice.."
"I couldn’t have that child! Not while I was in school...I did what I had to do...I didn't see any other way..."
"I knew he had violent tendencies, but after six heartbreaks, I saw no other choice but to accept to marry him when he proposed!"
"I needed the job so badly; I knew the harassment would get out of hand. But how I for do?"
Dear reader, are these scenarios familiar? When it seems the only way out is the very way you would not advise your enemy to follow? And you just sigh and say, "Do I have a choice?"
We always have choices. Not to do something about an issue is a choice in itself. The fact is not that there are no choices, but that we do not like the choices left in some situations.
Looking at the instances above, you could have walked away shaking with anger, because that slap could mar a friendship that meant so much...but if you don't stop to think, that choice wouldn’t surface.
You could have decided not to do runs, and probably not go to school, or do the high-class things, or lose a loved-one.
You could have that child and become a dropout or a single mum or face social stigma.
You could have refused to marry a man with anger issues; the worst that could happen is you marry late.
You could have stayed broke a little longer, and not take that job where your boss harasses you sexually everyday.
As ugly as these choices seem, they are choices. So we always have a choice.
We are always going to be faced with choices as long as we live, and the good thing is, you are solely responsible for the consequences...so whether good or bad its on you.
Can we try to choose our root choices wisely? Some would be painful no doubt...but soon enough you would face them in the nearest future.
Don't get me wrong; I am not trying to judge anyone. This goes out to all of us faced with one choice or the other or who have felt defeated as a result of bad choices we may have made. Rise up, dust yourself, review things and make good choices. Try all you can not to be conditioned by circumstances, stand apart from them and weigh things realistically and yes! For some you would need to have unshakeable faith. It is true that good choices take a lot of hard work and perseverance, but not to worry...no one loses for doing the right things, don't be deceived.
"Doing runs was the only way I saw I could survive. I didn't have a choice.."
"I couldn’t have that child! Not while I was in school...I did what I had to do...I didn't see any other way..."
"I knew he had violent tendencies, but after six heartbreaks, I saw no other choice but to accept to marry him when he proposed!"
"I needed the job so badly; I knew the harassment would get out of hand. But how I for do?"
Dear reader, are these scenarios familiar? When it seems the only way out is the very way you would not advise your enemy to follow? And you just sigh and say, "Do I have a choice?"
We always have choices. Not to do something about an issue is a choice in itself. The fact is not that there are no choices, but that we do not like the choices left in some situations.
Looking at the instances above, you could have walked away shaking with anger, because that slap could mar a friendship that meant so much...but if you don't stop to think, that choice wouldn’t surface.
You could have decided not to do runs, and probably not go to school, or do the high-class things, or lose a loved-one.
You could have that child and become a dropout or a single mum or face social stigma.
You could have refused to marry a man with anger issues; the worst that could happen is you marry late.
You could have stayed broke a little longer, and not take that job where your boss harasses you sexually everyday.
As ugly as these choices seem, they are choices. So we always have a choice.
We are always going to be faced with choices as long as we live, and the good thing is, you are solely responsible for the consequences...so whether good or bad its on you.
Can we try to choose our root choices wisely? Some would be painful no doubt...but soon enough you would face them in the nearest future.
Don't get me wrong; I am not trying to judge anyone. This goes out to all of us faced with one choice or the other or who have felt defeated as a result of bad choices we may have made. Rise up, dust yourself, review things and make good choices. Try all you can not to be conditioned by circumstances, stand apart from them and weigh things realistically and yes! For some you would need to have unshakeable faith. It is true that good choices take a lot of hard work and perseverance, but not to worry...no one loses for doing the right things, don't be deceived.
These are my thoughts this beautiful day. Be encouraged!
2 comments:
Yea.we can never regret a bad decision.although we find ourselves in a situation where we are like between d devil and d deep blue see,but lets trust in God cos he wud always see us through....nice write up
We are what we are cos of the choices we make. It is said that ideas rule the world, i say choices makes the world.
Jeremiah O Sunday
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